Sometimes, we find ourselves in relationships we don’t want to be in anymore. Sometimes, we wonder how we got to this point in our lives. All is not lost, my friends. We all have issues in relationships, and sometimes, we all wonder how we got to this point. However, almost every relationship can be saved or made better.
Relationships are difficult most of the time. They take work and, sometimes, a lot of work. Here are tips for saving a relationship, even if you think it’s not possible now. Every relationship can be saved if you want to save it. On the other hand, if you have given up, then that relationship will never work. You manifest what you think about. If you think a relationship can be saved, it will be saved. If you think the relationship is doomed, it will be doomed. As the old saying goes, the better it gets, the better it gets, and the worse it gets, the worse it gets. It’s the same thing. If you think anything will happen to you, good or bad, most likely, it will happen. It’s the law of attraction working in your life.
Don’t give up on your relationship. It’s very simple, but many people give up when things get hard, or they give up when they don’t want to work on the relationship. Good relationships might not have always been good. Normally, good or great relationships take a lot of work. The point is don’t give up, because great relationships take a lot of work.
Communication is key when trying to save any relationship. Talk to each other and tell your partner how you feel. What makes you upset about your partner? Tell him or her how you feel. Don’t hold back; holding back got you into this spot you’re in. You need to communicate with each other, maybe for the first time; really talk and listen. Don’t be judgmental. What do I mean by that? I mean, if my partner tells me I hurt his feelings, most of the time, I would say, “No, I never do that.” Let it go and try and see it from your partner’s point of view. Sometimes, this is hard for people, but it’s well worth it.
For the next 30 days, I want you to keep a journal and, every day, write down why you started dating your boyfriend or girlfriend. What made you want to date him or her? What made you like them? Write it all down, and at the end of 30 days, give it to your boyfriend or girlfriend and have them read it.
Write down the things they used to do for you when you started dating. For example, when you started going out, did he bring you flowers or write you notes? Did you write your man notes and tell him how much you loved him? These little things sometimes go away after people have been together for a long time or have gotten married. What am I trying to say is, start doing things for your partner. Bring your girlfriend flowers; tell your boyfriend you really appreciate him. Tell them how special they are. Try to bring back that spark you had at the start of your relationship. The spark is still there; it’s just been forgotten.
Don’t give up. Giving up is not the answer when you are having issues in a relationship. Relationships are supposed to be great and happy. Yes, sometimes, we hit a speed bump, but it’s possible to get over the speed bump and move forward. Remember, you started dating your partner because you liked him or her. My guess is, you still love your partner, but all the crap that has gotten in the way has clouded your judgment. Here is an affirmation for a wonderful relationship. “YES, my relationship is wonderful. We support each other in every way, and we love each other every day.”
Don’t give up; keep going and try to see things from your partner’s point of view. Sometimes, when you think of things in another way, things just fall into place. You can save any relationship if you want to.
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